Last year when I turned twenty years old, I had an existential crisis in a Starbucks in St. Joe. I have wonderful memories of that day, and also some not so great ones. I have to say, my year of being twenty was a lot like my birthday last year: full of wonderful memories, along with some not so great ones. The past 365 days have been some of the most character building days of my life. On this day of starting up a new year of life, I’d like to share twenty-one life lessons that I have learned over the course of my time here on earth thus far.
Not everyone is going to like you, and that’s okay. However, that does not give you an excuse to not be kind.
Breathe. It’s something I don’t do nearly enough. Breathe to support yourself when you are singing. Breathe when you’re on stage delivering lines. Breathe through the stress that will at some point pass.
You deserved to be treated like a queen; settle for nothing less.
You can’t take words back; think before you speak.
Learn to apologize, but do not apologize for things that are not your fault.
Your casting in a show, your position in a job, your grade on a math test or your GPA do not define who you are as a person.
Being a Christian is not easy, and anyone who tells you that all your problems will go away when you accept Jesus is a big old liar.
When you’re frustrated, take ten seconds to step back and think as to why someone else is thinking differently than you.
Meekness is not weakness. Meekness actually shows are strong you are.
Know where your personality flourishes and find a work environment that best suits you. I do not belong in an office setting. It makes me go bonkers and I feel so unproductive when I am trapped behind a desk.
The arts are so important and no matter what others tell you, never stop creating.
Do not hold onto your plans with tight fists. Instead, hold them with open palms, allowing them to be remolded or tossed out if needed.
God wants you to be happy and enjoy life. He created so much awesome stuff; He wants us to enjoy it!
There is no shame in seeking help to improve your mental health.
Not everyone is going to support you. Listen to your opposition, but do not allow it to sway you. Instead, listen to the people who are in your corner rooting you on, and encourage them to succeed as well.
Sometimes, you have to be the bad cop. When you do so, do it with grace and understanding. No one is perfect; deliver correction with gentleness.
Practice makes permanent.
Sometimes, you need to do a better job of trusting your gut feeling.
Reading out loud is one of the best ways to share community with another person.When someone walks into your home, offer them a beverage. If they’re sad, offer a hot one, making sure to add an extra spoonful of sugar.
No matter how badly I mess up, I am still loved beyond my own understanding.
Never stop learning, my friends. Whether you’re eight or eighty-eight, there’s still so much to life that is left to be discovered. I look forward to seeing what all I’ll be learning over this next 365 days of life!
Until Next Time,