50 Ways to Love Another Human

There’s been a ton of “yuck” circulating as of late. It seems as if we’re spending a lot more time being angry with people instead of loving them. Regardless of race, gender, religion, political views, or whether or not the new “Cats” movie trailer gave you nightmares, all of us crave love in one way or another. A man named Dr. Gary Chapman wrote a book called “The Five Love Languages” which talks about how there are five different ways that we express and receive love: Words of Affirmation, Acts of Service, Touch, Gifts, and Quality Time. Everyone accepts and gives love in different ways. Some people feel more loved when you give them a hug over you giving them a gift. While you can transfer affection to others in many different ways, it is always good to know which of the five is most prevalent in the people you interact with on the daily. This is super helpful in romantic relationships, but you can apply it to friendships and even work relationships. I’ve devised a list of 50 ways you can show love to another person  within the five categories of the love languages. That being said, let’s kick it off with…

 

Words of Affirmation: Expressing words to build someone up

*Note: Words can go a long way, whether positive or negative.*

 

1) Compliment their outfit (this works for girls and guys, friends)

2) Post something awesome about them on social media 

3) Make them a playlist that reminds you of them 

4) Text them motivational quotes 

5) Write them fun messages on sticky notes

6) Spam their Snapchat 

7) Remind them of what makes them unique and awesome

8) Encourage them to pursue their passions

9) Validate their emotions 

10) Tell them you’re proud of them 

 

Acts of Service: Doing things to serve another person that take effort

*Note: When doing an act of service, positivity is key. Tasks done negatively or out of obligation don’t come across as loving.*

 

11) Wipe down their kitchen counter 

12) Cover the bill

13) Make them a hot beverage

14) Offer to drive

15) Help with laundry

16) Watch their favorite show/movie

17) Untangle headphones 

18) Make them a home cooked meal

19) Do the dishes (even when they aren’t yours)

20) Ask, “How can I make your life better today?”

 

Touch: Sharing a connection physically

*Note: Just because a person has Touch as their top language does not mean they only want sexual touch*

 

21) Make up a super cool handshake

22) Be intentional with hugs 

23) Give high fives 

24) Pat their back 

25) Play with their hair 

26) Sit close to them

27) Quick kiss on the cheek

28) Make eye contact when in conversation 

29) Respect boundaries 

30) If you know they are not a touchy person, ask if it’s okay to touch them before hugs/pats on the back, etc. 

 

Gifts: Giving a meaningful gift that makes another person feel thought of

*Note: This does not mean a person is materialistic if they have Gifts as their primary love language.*

 

31) Bring something home from a vacation 

32) Surprise them with their favorite candy

33) Find a cool rock? Give that to them and say, “I think you rock.” 

34) Pick wildflowers 

35) Fill a journal with photos and written memories with them

36) Purchase a book you know they would enjoy

37) Take them to a thrift store and find a second-hand treasure to give them

38) Bring them their favorite beverage

39) Frame your favorite photo of the two of you together 

40) Spend a quarter on one of those fun toy vending machines

 

Quality Time: Undivided attention 

*Note: Dedicating specific time for this person is important, which means canceling plans can really hurt.*

 

41) Read a book out loud together

42) Talk without phones present

43) Have a girl’s night complete with face masks and manicures

44) Play a board game

45) Go to the park

46) Try out a new coffee shop neither one of you have visited

47) Take a _______ class together (cooking, painting, etc.)

48) Run errands together

49) Watch a tv show together

50) Volunteer together 

 

Below, I’ve attached a link to the Five Love Languages Quiz. If you’re interested to know what your ranking of the five categories is, I strongly encourage you to check it out. I have found that knowing the love languages of people I care about has been super helpful in being a better friend and companion. Take time today to spread love to others. It’s important to remember that even though all of us have different opinions, we all still need to be loved by others. Just because someone thinks about the world in a way that you don’t agree with doesn’t mean that they are any less deserving of love and respect. 

 

Link to Quiz!

 

Until Next Time,

Abby 

 

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